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Episode 9. Sadmin: Dealing with Unfinished Admin Business Surrounding Your Loss with Emma Gray

Season #1

Episode Summary:
In this deeply moving episode of A Guide to After Life, I sit down with Emma Gray, an award-winning grief and life coach and former Wills and Probate solicitor. Together, they navigate the heart of “sadmin” – the overwhelming and often isolating task of managing a loved one’s end-of-life administration. Emma shares her journey of becoming a widow and single parent following her husband's battle with terminal cancer, offering her insights on navigating anticipatory grief, the importance of end-of-life planning, and the emotional challenges that come with sorting out our "sadmin."

Emma encourages us to find moments of hope and joy amid grief. She has created tools, resources, and courses to support people in facing their grief and organising their lives during one of the most challenging times. This conversation delves into practical tips for managing grief, both administratively and emotionally, while offering comfort and community to those moving through profound loss.

Key Topics Covered:

  • Emma's personal journey with anticipatory grief and the challenges of bereavement
  • The concept of "sadmin" – tackling the administrative tasks that follow a loved one's passing
  • How proactive life planning can ease the burden on family members
  • Tips for starting and managing your own “sadmin”
  • The impact of societal expectations on grief and how to move forward meaningfully
  • Emma’s “Rainbow Hunting” approach to grief and growth
  • Details on Emma's Sadmin® course and resources for practical and emotional support

Emma's Bio:
Emma Gray is becoming a leading figure in the realm of life planning and bereavement support. A former award-winning solicitor turned grief and life coach, Emma's personal heartbreaking journey has shaped her into a powerful advocate for proactive life organisation and compassionate grief support.

In her mid-thirties, Emma’s world was turned upside down when her Royal Marine husband was diagnosed with terminal cancer, leaving her to solo parent their two young children and take on the family’s financial responsibilities. Emma's journey through her husband's probate and bereavement administration left her grateful for his thoughtful preparations, inspiring her passion for helping others to plan for life’s most challenging moments.

Today, Emma is the creator of the transformative Sadmin® course and the national award-winning Will Challenge, both designed to demystify end-of-life planning and empower individuals in creating legacies. Her unique "Rainbow Hunting" philosophy – finding hope and joy in dark times – is woven throughout her work. Emma’s expertise, coupled with her lived experience and neurodivergent insights, bridges the gap between practical planning and emotional support, providing a holistic approach to navigating life’s toughest transitions.

Emma’s work has been recognized with various awards, and she actively collaborates with organisations like the Association of Lifetime Lawyers and the Society of Later Life Advisers. Through her compassionate guidance, Emma is redefining how we approach life organization, bereavement, and legacy creation.

Links & Resources:

  • Sadmin® Course and Resources
  • Free Will Challenge sign up 
  • Emma’s social media handles:  Instagram & Facebook: @rainbowhuntingmoments LinkedIn: emmagray
  • Take part in the Free Grief MOT to find out if you are stuck in a state of shock or whether your grief is progressing and does not require professional help.

  •  Book a free 15-consultation with Dr Monika Wieliczko to discuss the results of your Grief MOT

  • Find out about Grief Group Therapy that Dr Wieliczko offers

    Host's BIO:

    Dr Monika Wieliczko, Chartered Clinical Psychologist D.Clin.Psych, MSc, MA

    Psychologist by profession, and a widow, in private.

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    I have lost my life partner of 15 years to bowel cancer after a long and gruesome fight for his life. These experiences shaped and changed me forever affecting every aspect of my life personally and professionally. The three most challenging years of my life made me realise that our society has a profound problem with death and shaped my understanding of what life is really about.

    I consciously bring both perspectives into my practice; incorporating 15 years’ worth of knowledge of how our minds work with a large dose of lived experience of grief and mourning.

    I know the pain of loss but I also understand the burden of unaddressed grief.

    The unresolved feelings surrounding your late partner can prolong your grief for years, stopping you from truly mourning your loss, affecting your entire life. By making a conscious effort to understand and work through your grief you give yourself permission to live your life again.

    Apart from running a private practice, I am also a visiting lecturer at The Institute of Psychiatry in London delivering teaching for trainee clinical psychologists. My research interests involve the effects of profound trauma on grief response and the community-based approach to helping people with grief. I have worked within the NHS as well as private and charitable organisations in the UK since 2011. I have trained at various universities across the UK and Poland and I have completed my doctoral studies at the Canterbury Christ Church University.